Thursday, April 7, 2011

Nurturing a delicate plant - Marriage.

Do you know what I have truly discovered over the last month or so? How important it is to nurture your marriage. I know, I know - seems like something I should have already known after six years, right?

This last year has been pretty rough for Eric and I. As weird as it sounds, I actually believe we hit that "moment" in your late twenties where you are finally finding yourself. Does that make sense? I feel like you spend your twenties trying to figure out who you are, and as you get ready to enter your thirties, you're ready to start experiencing life as the person you finally know is you. Call it self discovery or let's face it - growing up.

I have been taking the last month doing a lot of self exploration. Really focusing on myself as a wife, mother, woman, etc. I'm discovering the kind of person I want to be in all these different areas in my life. The two areas I'm focusing most on right now are my marriage and my children. Here's the crazy thing - I've discovered that if your marriage is taken care of first, your children receive the most positive results. After having my babies, I always had it placed in my mind that the kids come first, kids come first. Of course, in many instances they do. But the relationship between Mommy and Daddy affects everything. I can't believe it's taken me this long come to that realization. It's like a domino effect. Everything starts falling into place. A silly analogy but if you water the plant, the flowers will grow. Marriage is more than just love. It takes hard work, devotion, communication, trust, EFFORT.

I am discovering an even deeper love for Eric than I ever knew. It's like I'm falling in love with him for the first time all over again.


  1. If I could "like" this post, I totally would. So true, Jess. Our babies are the world, but Mommy and Daddy are the foundation. It's the hardest work of all at times, but so worth the effort when you need that foundation to fall back on.

  2. I agree with Jen. This post needs a "like" botton. Its amazing how much life can get in the way of our relationship with our husbands. I know, with everything Jake and I have been through the last few years with babies or really lack there of, that it is really easy to loose "us" and get so caught up in whats going on. I'm glad you are finding out who you are and who you want to be. You are amazing Jess!!

  3. Thank you ladies. :)

    It really is an amazing place to be. It seems like I should have known all these things for a long time - but I'm thankful I'm discovering it now and not 20 years from now.